**note this was written but not released on it’s origination date**
19-July-2022 – So, so, so much to talk about. This is a soapbox that keeps on givin’. What am I talkin’ about? The situation that started with #findVICKIE should now be #foundGREEDY ….
As promised, I am ready to present to you, my few readers, the TRUE AFTERMATH since mama passed away in March 2022.
I will do my best NOT to rehash the things that lead to this post. If you stumbled across this post and have no clue what I am talking about, *STOP READING NOW*! Here’s a suggested reading list:
– A Message to the Greedy
– Looking for Mama..#findVICKIE
– Shots Fired
– A Sister’s Plea…
– It’s Time…
– …the AFTERMATH…
July 19, 2022 – a tpyical night for me, replaying all these events in my head keeping me from really getting sleep. This particular night was different because I had this nagging feeling that I needed to dig in and do some investigating. I had felt this feeling for a few weeks, the first memorable strong feeling was when I was paying my respects graveside on daddy’s birthday July 1st. I ignored that feeling and went about life trying to ignore the nagging voice in my head. So, I gave in and made a few calls and did some online searching. Within minutes that nagging voice said “FINALLY, you found it”. I was staring at the computer screen, eyes locked on the probate records under mama’s name and there it was…a complaint filed on June 16, 2022, followed by summons and receipt.
Just over 30 days ago! My first thought was, “damn it, I should have listened to that nagging voice July 1st“. I felt like a complete idiot. I dreaded clicking on that link but I knew I had to. Upon doing so, I discovered that my sister had filed the complaint against my brother to challenge the validity of the will. I read through it and I couldn’t concentrate on the contents of the document because I was so infuriated with my siblings, specifically my sister at this time. So many questions surfaced. Why didn’t she tell me she was going to go through with this? Ironically, I had sent her a text June 17th. Why didn’t she mention it when she finally responded on June 19th or the texts after that? Why is this looking like it involves only my brother and sister when in fact I am just as much involved as they are? What do I do next?
I clicked on the links and tried to concentrate as I read the wordy legal complaint. When I clicked on the “AFFIDAVIT OF SERVICE” I saw something that stood out like a sore thumb:
This is the document that certifies that the summons and complaint were delivered to my brother on June 25, 2022 and his spouse (noted above) received the document on his behalf. It went on to list the individual’s age, race, gender, height, weight and hair color. The red flag you ask… his spouse is NOT “Sandra Brewer” nor is she 35 years of age! Now, being as I have done a pretty extensive search into our genealogy I have not been made aware of anyone in our family, especially on the Brewer side with a name remotely close to mine as this is. I read that document probably a million times trying to figure out what in the hell is going on? Who is this person? Why would they claim to be my brother’s spouse? Is this going to look as if maybe I was involved? Yeah, that is a stretch I know, but with all the curveballs thrown to date, I cannot help but wonder if this is another one.
So, I gathered my thoughts and texted my sister. It was right at lunch time so I quickly texted a simple question, “Who is Sandra Brewer?”
While waiting on the answer, I read through everything again. I agreed with the complaint FOR THE MOST PART. How was I going to get my voice heard in this? I was thinking about many generations from now reading these documents as they tried to piece together family history and thinking I had disappeared and reinvented myself as “Sandra Brewer”. The probate documents were now a part of my history and future and I wanted to make sure I told my version. I began to seek out legal advice and it was advised that I send in my own STATEMENT. Being as I was late to the game here, my brother would be entering his answer within the 30 days of the reciept filed, I had to do what I could to get my answer in BEFORE his deadline. I got started immediately, in between life demands.
At 5:18pm, I received a very short emogi only response from my sister – a shrug to the question. I was furious that it took 5hrs and 18mins to get me only a stupid little cartoon response!
I cooled my jets and waited to reply. At 6:28pm I sent my reply, basically pointing out that “perhaps she should want to know who the 35yr old, 140# individual posing as a spouse, signed for the summons to our brother”.
By 7:26pm, I was questioned as to “what I was talking about?” Now…folks. At this point, any normal person in this situation would pick up the phone and inquire. Right? Should I have called? No, I don’t think so. Here’s why? I was not called when the decision was made to file the complaint. I was not called when the complaint was entered into probate. I was not called when I asked questions.
I took about 7mins, at 7:43pm, my reply simply stated I had discovered the documents while reviewing the probate documents online and am concerned as to why someone, who we have no known existance of, received documents for our brother in regards to our mama? Again, I had expected a call at this point and waited.
At 8:35pm, I got the worst response ever…. TWO F***KIN EMOJI’S – shrug and headblown!!!!! I hate emoji reponses to things that deserve words!
While all of this texting is going on, I had started writing my response.
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