This blog is related to the June 8 blog “Even Adults Deal with Bullies”….heck, who am I kidding….there’s a book begging to be written about this topic.
This goes beyond bullying. It shows how classless, petty and self-centered bullies can be. I cannot say that I didn’t expect less from this bully. They were given an opportunity to state their case when the drama started…but chose silence. I waited almost a month before I finally sent a polite and classy request, via typed media, stating my suspicions, facts, and request to remove our contact information from their lives. I had already removed all social media connections – they kept hanging on {still got a lingering connection I cannot cut}.
I knew we’d be crossing paths again…so I promised that my kids would “speak when spoken to and continue to be respectful”. I knew that was NOT a position they would take with their own offspring…but as I told my kids, “We are above them”. The few times our paths crossed…it was okay. I did my best to make sure I remained polite. I really wanted to just get REAL and take this issue on head-on. However, I know in my heart…they feed off making others miserable because they have a miserable existence – so taking it head-on will only yield in a headache for me. I stayed real to myself – I made jokes and my dry, sarcastic sense of humor was laughed at many times. Of course, now that I am removed from the daily interaction, I think they may have faked even liking my humor.
Now…speed up to about a week ago….my dry, sarcastic sense of humor was used in another online media in response to a group of others. Some know me…some don’t…but when I was typing it, I felt that the person it was directed to…{this bully}…would probably get it…never expected them to show their true colors. Shockingly…they must have put some thought into the ‘show’ – I cannot credit them for having a backbone…it was too tacky. After spending about an hour within 10 feet of me; talking to my daughter and some of the same people I talked to…they decided just before they made their exit they would position themselves above me, lean down into another person I was conversing with, make friendly talk then jump on me – basically telling me I was not allowed to post my “smart remarks” for others to see. I was about to roll off laughing!! I laughed out loud too! I envisioned them losing balance and watching them roll down to the concrete below. As they left…they continued so many other strangers sitting around could see…I remained seated…psychology says I was not threatened because I remained seated…I heard chuckles around me. One person, moved down a seat – removing themselves. But, as this person, who had worked so hard to climb above me began to descend back to level ground, I clapped for them. I got an ugly “eat…and die” look – and smiled. As they stomped away, I said, “just go crawl into your unhappy dark hole”….
SERIOUSLY!!! This was so tacky!! SEVERAL folks around that witnessed it, had NO clue what it was about…but said, “That was just tacky. Classless. Something that should have been done in private”. Good thing….they knew this person was all that; but seeing it always better. As I tell my kids, “actions speak louder than words”. Another one said, “wow…guess we know where the kids get it”..
I was upset. Don’t get me wrong. Who wouldn’t be. A small-minded person approaches you…climbs on their step ladder just to get above you….proceeds to tell you, you are not allowed to talk to others and be yourself….you would be upset too! Defenses are up. It was all I could do not to push the face away from mine (mind you, they were REALLLLLLY close to me). Remember, I did have visions of them rolling down the hill they climbed.
Since that incident. I have learned…they went further into the classless and tacky closet and pulled out an old trick – forbidding their offspring from conversing with my offspring. Fortunately, my kids are not crying. Remember, we are above them!
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